Gratitude – Not Just A Platitude

thank you from the sea of kindness on the beach
Gratitude – it’s something that actually works. Too often it is in the “You Should” department, however it really belongs in the “It Works” department. Can you feel the difference in energy?

The more I come to understand that we live in an energetic universe as much or more than we live in a physical universe, the more attuned I am to what works, and how. Despite a bazillion howto books on spirituality, on business, on relationships, what I find I am attracted to is what feels good to me. What vibrates in harmony with me. What resonates with me. Not the words. Not the formula. The vibration – it is that inner sense of knowing, even when outer words or stories contradict.

Gratitude is one of those things that it is easy to talk about, yet we find ourselves challenged when it comes to the walk about. I have preached it and heard it preached, wrapped in a sense of moral imperative. Yet all too often there was a disconnect in my day-to-day reality. So-called bad stuff would happen and I would get pissed and spend hours, (days!) devising responses, workarounds, elaborate excuses and justifications.

After divine openings, gratitude flows naturally. Not only do I have less resistance to whatever shows up, I also easily remember to “go with the flow.” I have learned that it is not the event itself, but my resistance to it or my story about it, that can prolong it or increase my suffering related to it. (The remembering part – that is such a fun thing about consciousness!)

When so-called bad stuff happens now (like a little dermatitis showing up on my face yesterday morning, two days before my live divine openings mini retreat), I just say “Thank you! You got my attention.” Or “Isn’t this curious.” Or “Hmmm, I wouldn’t have thought of doing it this way … now I can hardly wait to see what is on the other side of this!” Or “Let me check inside…must be some feelings wanting let out of the basement!” (And today, the dermatitis has departed.)

Most of all I acknowledge that “I created this.” That instantly puts me back in the driver’s seat, and off the pity pot and out of the rage machine. Things can now shift so quickly! And of course when I am laughing at the absurdity instead of moaning, “Why me?” – well, I’ve already starting flowing past it. Divine openings adds the ease and supports the framework of my powerful co-creativity. I just love that!

I now love being grateful – not to be a “better person” – what the heck is that anyway? But instead, I love being grateful because – it works. Gratitude moves mountains, if we let it.

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  1. Hi Rox,
    It is so true, being grateful really does work! Recently my teeth started hurting one by one within a span of a month. The pain would travel from one tooth one day to another the next. I had no clue what was going on. The pain was excruciating. I knew I had to do something fast if the pain didn’t go away. One day after experiencing more pain, I instinctively went to the bathroom mirror and really looked at my teeth. And for the first time in my life I loved them for being mine. Growing up, I never liked my teeth. But at that moment, I felt complete and utter gratitude for them, then suddenly the pain went away and has never returned. The other amazing thing is that my teeth have been sensitive to cold water for the last 13 yrs. and now they’re not. I can now brush me teeth with ice cold water and it’s not a problem. It’s amazing! I had heard of the healing power of gratitude but have just experienced it for the first time, Divine Openings has made this possible. Thanks for your great post and insights. Hugs and Kisses, Nina

    • Nina – That is an amazing story. Bernie Siegel, the physician who helped pioneer mind-body medicine, used to share stories of people who were willing to open their consciousness to feelings about their bodies. And how this so perfectly connects with the power of “I created this!” not as blame but as the way over to more ease, less pain.

      Your example is beautiful and profound. Thanks so much for sharing it here.

      Love, Rox

  2. Love this post Rox. One of the most important things I have allowed is this process of taking complete responsibility for my now. It literally poured power back into me. Thanks for the personal insights.

  3. Thank you so much Rox,
    What a powerful reminder!!