Be still and remember – the wisdom of a first grader

photo of woman shh by towardsthesunset on flickr

I was talking to friends on the phone from their car today and I had a momentary memory lapse: we were talking about last year’s New Years Eve. The mom was saying, “Remember, we were all together at our house?”

Slowly it was coming back to me as I spoke. Meanwhile, from the back seat, comes the voice of the first grader:

At first I couldn’t remember either but then I went quiet and went inside my mind and then I started to remember it all!

I just love watching as her awareness and self-awareness come alive in synchrony with an expanding vocabulary.

Then I saw this article on the called The Joy of Quiet by Pico Iyer. He says,

In barely one generation we’ve moved from exulting in the time-saving devices that have so expanded our lives to trying to get away from them — often in order to make more time. The more ways we have to connect, the more many of us seem desperate to unplug.

I chuckle, as 12/31 is also my birthday, and I often try to make at least some if not all of it a silent retreat. That is two way silence by the way. Not speaking yet also not listening to the outside. Technology especially included! My friend Peter Liu retreated this past week. As he slowly emerges, he had this endorsement on Twitter:
Twitter quote from PeterLiu47

Then of course later I look up and there is this banner ad displaying on the web page in front of me:

ad for college where students meditate

For me, the silence is not to fulfill a spiritual obligation. It is simply – to remember. To remember my connection to the whole hologram of all that is and to remember how many choices I have in any given moment. To remember that I am ultimately safe; no matter what happens I shall return to the unlimited state of everything and nothingness, just like you. To remember that life is but a game – one that we are creating and playing in the same moment, safe and free at all times.

Special thanks to my friend Liza Pierce who suggested in our Maui bloggers group that we each post something on January 1, 2012. I really appreciated the idea and happily ride the thread of energy to get here today!

I am also contributing this to my friend Tania Ginoza’s compilation of New Year’s Resolutions coming soon to her Maui Shop Girl blog. Though I don’t do resolutions per se, I do love this “do over” that we get every January 1st and the surge of inspiration and energy that often accompanies it.

Happy New Year – isn’t it fun we get to start over again?


Photo Credit: Quiet by towardsthesunset on Flickr

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  1. Longing for silence… Longing to unplug… Saw the film “Oka” last night which means “to listen” … Slowing down, writing, but seems impossible to stop the noise of life. Going to take the time and manage to keep silence, not speaking, a priority

  2. I am thinking of starting a meme on the social networks – an hour a day, unplugged. Haven’t figured it out yet but I think the collective “we” is longing for it – and that includes of course being off line too. I was in the garden/yard today for 4 hours and loved it! Never checked in once and lived to tell the story. 🙂 Happy new year Marilyn!

  3. Rox, you have so many facets. When I first met you, I saw an articulate speaker, smart business woman and immaculate professional. I never imagined this other side of you, the purposeful journey that you take to take care of your soul…I would like to start meditating in 2012 (I’m not sure how or where yet, I have a small home and am rarely the only one there). But, I will do some reading and exploring.

    I often drive in complete silence…I find I am often much more relaxed than with music blaring from the radio. I think it is also why I used to stop at the beach by the Natatorium on the way home from the office on a Saturday. That moment of sitting on the sand, watching the sunset and hearing the waves crashed cleared away the stress of working a 6th day and dealing with the traffic home.

  4. Tania – Thanks for your visit and comments. It is amazing where we can find solitude once we have the muscle built to look for it. I found that took some doing. One, by default we are presented with so many distractions (like you said on your blog today summarizes a year of blogging vs watching more tv, etc.) The other part is what to do with the silence – keeping small self mind at bay and learning to commune directly with a source, the source, call it what you will. I can heartily recommend Lola Jones’ book, Things Are Going Great in My Absence. You can find a link to it under the Divine Openings link here on my page. I also have some copies on hand!

    Happy new year new friend!

  5. Roxanne, I don’t know how you manage so many blogs, but I’ve loved visiting each one and seeing different sides of you.

    The need for silence in my life is deafening. Truly. I have a macbook, an ipad, and in the last 48 hours and iPhone (yay!) but my husband and I discussed the need for balance, and with all these gadgets which I love, I know this is true. I can have all these things, just in moderation.

    One thing I need to work on is silence my brain. I may not be plugged into anything, but my mind will be going 100 mph. Thanks for the reminder to s-l-o-w d-o-w-n and quiet myself.

    • Ihilani – I just turned on threaded comments so I can reply easily to one person at a time. Just another step in the s-l-o-w-d-o-w-n process. Have fun with your devices…I am learning when to say when myself!

  6. We must have read that article The Joy of Quiet by Pico Iyer the same time. I love it. It resonates with me a lot. In quietness is where I re-gain my energy, and often where I discover wisdom.

    And thanks for the kind mention. I am excited to see/feel the high level of energy going around on this “First post of the year” project 🙂 Not only are we getting motivated to post, we are also developing new friendships.

    • Liza – You said it so well. Quiet is where it’s at, especially in our noisy environments. And that noise is on on every level. 🙂

      As our friend Tara Coomans says to me when the email gets going, “Ooommmmmm.” Brings a smile every time!

  7. The Artist’s Way also recommends a full week of reading deprivation (including email and internet), and it’s really worthwhile. Although I’m not as connected as some, it’s been valuable to unplug.

    • Courtney – you’ve made actually a very profound point. An aspect of the always connected noisy world is the habit of (dare I say addiction to?) consuming voraciously. As if we will miss something. Now more than ever I remind my monkey mind – it will all be there later. Google and FB are keeping track of it for me. If I miss “something” there are a dozen more today and even more tomorrow. Thanks!

  8. Thank you for the recommendation Rox, I’ll definitely check that out.

    Courtney…now you’ve got me thinking. I have The Artist’s Way and need to find it. When I first got it, I didn’t feel ready to commit to do it, but I think I’m ready now.

  9. Roxanne, I just mentioned meditation this morning…I tried it a couple of years ago after reading the book, “8 Minute Meditation”. With life being so busy and my “hyperness” is hard to stick with it, but great to be able to clear your mind and thoughts. I think this is a sign 🙂 Thank you!

    • Lena I am a rebel in most things, including meditation. For me, going for a swim counts, as does lying on the grass looking at the clouds. Being too formal about things makes it harder for me to enjoy them. So a breath here, a laugh there, some silence now and thin…it’s all good! Thanks for visiting.

  10. I cheated actually. I wasn’t quiet on social media, but I interacted a lot less and I didn’t talk to clients, friends or family IRL, and that counts as meditation to me.

    • Cheating works! Peter I hope you noticed I did not tweet you that I mentioned you here. I wanted to support your “whatever you want to call it” break! Thanks for stopping by…and happy new year.