One of the things I love about Twitter is how every now and then a perfectly distilled idea comes across in 140 characters! Such was the case today when I saw the message, “Is it judgmental to tell people not to be judgmental?”
I must have surely helped create this as only a few weeks ago I was in fact busted for this very same thing! I was irritated with a close friend who has been judgmental lately. It is terrific catch-22, my wanting this person to not be judgmental! Of course I was judging the situation myself, saying this person should be different.
What tripped me up initially was my desire to want my life to be filled with positivity and open-mindness. Of course I can be all “rainbows and unicorns” at times, and I love it! I love seeing the glass half-full. Sorting out how I get to have my delicious subjective preferences without being judgmental is an exercise in world peace you might say!
I believe that the more compassion we have for ourselves, the more we will have for others. It’s a corollary to something I heard Wayne Dyer say (I am approximating), “When you judge others, you are also judging yourself.”
So if you are feeling the urge to (judge) request others to not be so judgmental, I feel for you. Here’s what I do, when I remember: I move my attention to something completely different. Something that resonates with me, something that raises my vibration. Something that allows “they who I find irritating in their judmentalism” to fade out of my sphere of awareness.
I think it is much more fun that way, and never do I have to judge myself for being judgmental about wanting others to be less judgmental!