One of the things that I have been dealing with for a long time is getting over my fear of telling the truth about who I am. Which actually is a very strong person. But for many reasons, I hold back. Just like my brothers and sisters deep in the corporation and the military and so many other places. Heck, why have my own business if I can’t tell my truth?
“Don’t want to be rude” is near the top.
“Don’t want to upset anyone” is up there too.
“That’s against the rules” wants a leading role as well.
But what happens is that I eat S*** as a result. Greg Behrendt’s act is so utterly cool. He celebrates his uncoolness and makes it seem easy, effortless, and utterly “duh” to just be who you are. To rock in your own world. It sounds cliché when I write it down, but just “watch his show” and you’ll know just what I mean.
I find myself frequently feeling like a Rodney Dangerfield — can’t get no respect — but really that is my own problem! I believe we train people how to treat us. It’s up to me to say, “No, that doesn’t work for me.” Or, “I’d like to suggest we do it this way.”
I am such a nice and smart and caring person. I’m really a terrific candidate for being able to deliver whatever my little #2 (Kid Me) thinks is “bad” news to people. Once I get off my own case that is!
Marching minions of masses following the man is so last century! Alas, all too often I find myself in step with them.
Each day though I am getting closer to speaking my truth. I’m getting pretty good at it in my personal life. Now, to tackle the business life, where my family legacy and my Capricorn instincts really push me hard to avoid big risks and to put on a happy face when someone is trying to back me into a corner.
Look out world because I feel the real me stirring.
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